Thursday, November 13, 2008

Prop 8 Wedding Plans


I am trying to plan my wedding this year to Nascar Pit Crew. I expect it will be a glorious affair; I want a tradition wedding feast in the early evening, followed by a wild Weddingpalooza in the nighttime.

All of this bridezilla planning has been bittersweet. It is hard for me to include my mom in the plannig since her Christian values debunk all of my belief systems. It almost feels like if I don't hold it in a church, then I am definitely going to hell.
This thought makes me laugh, shake my head and feel sorry that my Mom is so lost in her zealousness. She is on the same team as the other zealot Christians, the Catholics, and the Mormons that pushed through Prop 8 here in California.

That being said, I call my Uncle David often to chat wedding details. He is a prophet, a pioneer of all things gay. He lives in rural Wisconsin, openly gay, teaching and spreading diversity at a University there. He and his partner have a solid committed relationship of 12 years, and when I think of the "grown up" who taught me the most about being a successful young adult, he was my role model.

So how come I get to have the wedding feast, white (well, in my case, green) dress, the big party with food and liquor, and he just get a memory in Tiffany's with his partner and the sales girl? I mean, seriously....

I am looking for some way to get involved with this cause. I believe everyone should have the same rights I do to palooza on their wedding day. Damn it David...let's get to work.

(love you Uncle!)

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Happy Ending


It feels like we are in a movie...please let it have a happy ending. The fervor surrounding the possibility of Obama as President of the US is electric. I watch the political tv, share political discussion with co-workers and friends, and can't help to feel like life is imitating a hollywood movie. Could Obama be our hero?


I am a realist and don't like the term "hero." But I do believe Obama has some overwhelming attributes that will bring a positive change to my home. He is a uniter, he is a dreamer, he speaks of peace and love. He wants to share the wealth. He is changing the face of "role models" in America. He and his wife share a solid union, based on love and respect, not political ideals. He has real plans for how to lead and how to improve the areas of healthcare, financial crisis, and military actions of the US. Most importantly, his platform is one of ideals of respect for all people, regardless of skin color, sexual orientation, and religious ideals.


In my family, I am a lone dreamer of a society built on mutual respect and uplifting of the human spirit. My brother is often overwhelmed by the drudges of everyday life to believe such a place could exist. My mother and stepdad are overwhelmed by the Christian doctrine that says you must believe the same way we believe in order to receive the benefits of our love and acceptance. My father suffers from delusions born from 2 tours in Vietnam and the suffering he experienced and inflicted as a member of this military heritage.


So alone I stand, aware that finally there is a candidate who represents my hopes and not my fears. I hope many more of you share my hopes on election day.

I love Nascar Pitcrew powered by Bacon


My lover and I are avid Burners (translation Burning Man participants). We met there, romanced there, and even got engaged there. Most of our best friends share a love for the playa experience. The Burner experience gets a lot of bad press; it is a drug infested festival full of waste and bad behavior. I know it is not that...it is a petri dish of social culture and community building and a place to practice being in love with everyone you know.


But enough of my Burning Man dialog, I want to write about Nascar. Nascar received this nickname because he is the fix-it guy when we are out camping with the SurlyCamp, our burning man community. I had always wanted to meet someone who know how to fix stuff. I think I have often felt I was broken...how reassuring to fall in love with someone who could fix you.


Nascar Pit Crew is not your typical fix-it guy. Sure he can build engines, bend metal, and always has a little bit of oil or dirt under his fingernails. But he is so much more. He is kind - he raises animals and fish and can't wait to be a dad. (He believes he is still alive because he is supposed to raise a child). He has treated me better than anyone I have ever met. He does not expect me to wait on him or take care of him. Even more importantly, he is teaching me how to be a kinder, more loving person.


He is so giving with his love and respect of me. Spending time in this relationship has made me recognize how fearful I am to fully give my love and respect to anyone. It is almost as though I am afraid if I give it away, there will be none left when I need it. The more time I am a part of this Nascar-Bacon team I see first hand that respect and love grows as one gives more of it away. I thank the goddesses that I have found a worthwhile partner to experience this.


Nascar Pitcrew - I love you.

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I am Nurse Bacon, a registered nurse who works hard and and lives a full life with her husband, Nascar Pitcrew. A little surly and a little sensitive, I am very much enamored with life and its nuances.